You know that reccurring sex dream you have about getting it on under the stars with your partner (or, you know, Ryan Gosling)? Well we think you should totally make that a reality—the outdoors part that is. And we’re not the only ones. Expanding your sexual experiences by having sex outside the bedroom can bring you closer to your partner, teach you about what turns you on, and help you feel sexually empowered, says sex and relationship expert.
Changing locations removes you from things in your home that stress you out and gets your adrenaline pumping, which helps you get even more aroused than usual, says Morse. And get this: Sharing feelings of excitement can help couples get connected during the experience and after. “If you have these cool experiences together, you can pull from those memories when you’re having sex at home and channel that excitement,” she says.
One thing to keep in mind: Getting it on in a new location is more about having a new thrilling experience than trying to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm, says Morse. The fact is, some women could struggle to reach the big O because they might not be focused or they are limited in the kinds of positions they can do. But don’t let that stop you. It’s definitely possible to have great sex without an orgasm, and the experience will be totally worth it. Here, 11 places you should put on your sex bucket list.
#1.In The Car:
If you grew up outside a city, then you probably spent a good chunk of your teenage years making out or having sex in cars. Where else is a teenager with raging hormones supposed to go to have sex? If that doesn’t seem like a familiar scenario, then it’s time to get in on what all us kids from the country know all too well: Car sex is awesome.
Not only do you get the thrill of somebody maybe coming by and catching you in the act, but you get that rush that comes with being 16 all over again when even kissing felt a bit “naughty.”
Morse says getting busy in your backyard is a great way to get all the benefits of having sex outdoors and away from home—without having to worry that you’ll get caught. Plus, you can always pitch a tent so your guy can, um, pitch a tent in private.
#3.In A Public Bathroom:
I have had sex in four public bathrooms in my life. Yes, the germ factor sounds vile and disgusting, and totally a boner killer, but in the heat of the moment, germs are the furthest thing from your mind. Similarly to having sex in a dressing room (which is near-impossible with retail employees constantly asking you if you need any help), there’s the excitement of both getting caught and the fact that you and your partner just couldn’t wait any longer.
Throw in a long line of people who have been drinking all night and are on the verge of peeing their pants, and its any exhibitionist’s heaven.
#4.At a Hotel:
“Hotel sex is amazing because there isn’t any clean up. You can just check in and it can be all about sex,” says Morse. She suggests getting out of your comfort zone by doing some role-playing (you’re now officially two hot strangers on vacation). If you’re looking for something a little wilder, Morse also says that sex on a private hotel balcony is super hot—you know, if it’s actually private. “No one knows you, it’s dark, you can look over the city, and you’re still close to your room.”
#5.In The Shower:
Although it’s one of the most dangerous places to have sex, shower sex can be really hot, especially if you have your period, because easy cleanup, obvs. But if you prep by keeping too many suds out of it and getting a no-slip mat, then it shouldn’t be a problem.
If you don’t think you and your partner can swing shower sex without killing each other, then the hot water and giving each other a rub down with a loofa will make for excellent foreplay.
#6.In An Elevator:
Totally cliché or totally awesome? Definitely the latter, if only because you are literally pressed for time and at any minute someone could walk in on you. It’s a race to see how far you can get before someone busts in on the fun!
#7.At a Friend’s Place:
One WH reader told us that the hottest place she’s had sex was at her friend’s apartment. Why? Because the walls were super thin and she and her boyfriend had to be “nearly silent.” She said that being really, really quiet “made everything feel so much more urgent and hot.” We couldn’t agree more.
#8.On A Plane:
Oh, yes, the Mile High Club. While the idea of trying to get it on in that tiny bathroom or under a blanket in coach seems like an insanely bad idea, there are those who have pulled it off.
According to 2014 study by Switchfly, four percent of Americans get to say they’re part of the Mile High Club, with men pretty much dominating the scene. But for the women who have been able to join, the majority of them are from 45 to 54 years of age. What we can deduce from this is if you haven’t had sex on a plane yet, your prime years are ahead of you. Also, there’s an app for that.
#9.In Front Of A Mirror:
Studies may have confirmed that men are far more visually stimulated than women, but it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy watching you and your partner have sex in a mirror. It might feel awkward at first to see yourself in live action (“I look like THAT?!”), but you also may find that it adds to your sexual satisfaction. What’s the difference between watching porn or yourself with partner during sex? I mean, besides the fact that porn stars have mad moves that the rest of us will never be able to finagle, of course.
#10.On The Beach:
While logistically, sex on the beach is a nightmare – sand in the vagina, a bunch of little kids eye-spying you, possible arrest – considering it has a drink named after it, a song named after it, and is included in one of the mosticonic move scenes ever, it’s impossible not to put it on the list. If you’re looking for romance, sex on the beach is it ― but it’s likely to get you more than just that. A sandy vagina is no one’s friend; neither is having to register as a sex offender because you got caught.