Our entire culture suffers from what the shamans call “soul loss,” a loss of meaning, direction, vitality, mission, purpose, identity, and genuine connection; a deep unhappiness that most of us have come to consider as simply ordinary.
The soul is our source of absolute uniqueness, a place within that connects you not only to your own value and essence, but to the value and essence of every other living being. What makes soul loss so subtle and dangerous is that very few people have realized that it has happened. Most of us do not know that we have disconnected from our soul and have come to accept as normal a numbness and lack of meaning in our lives.
Because we all belong to this culture, we all suffer from soul loss. It’s epidemic and blinds us from seeing the potential for joy and wholeness in ordinary life. When you heal from soul loss, you see familiar things in new ways so you can increase your joy in what you already have.
Here’s 10 Signs ::
#1.You’re Depressed about Your Home Life:
No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different. However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home. If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.
When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule. You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.
#2.You’re really competitive about salary and titles:
You don’t like the job itself, so you focus much more on salary and perks. Knowing that someone in a similar position is paid more than you, or is promoted when you’re not, really eats at you.
When we’re unhappy at work we get a lot more competitive, for one simple reason: When work doesn’t give us happiness and enjoyment we want to get something else out of it. And what else is there but compensation and promotions.
#3.You Aren’t Comfortable Being Yourself:
I love you…I love you not…I love you…I love you not…
Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place. If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.
You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you. If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.
#4. Work days feel looooong:
The first thing you do in the morning, is calculate the number of hours until you can go home.
Ironically, this makes the work day feel even longer.
#5.You’re Afraid of Commitment:
If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen. Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed. If you’re a woman who wants to test a guy’s commitment, tell him you’re pregnant and say nothing else. Watch your partner’s reaction during the next few minutes. Pay attention to the way he reacts. If he’s pulling away, he doesn’t love you enough. End it.
No matter who you are if you like it, then you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to). It’s a huge financial commitment, and if you’re not ready for one or the other after a year, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship. Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.
#6.You don’t care About anything:
Things can go well or they can go badly for your workplace. Either way, you don’t really give a damn.
When you’re unhappy, you care mostly about yourself and not so much about the workplace.
#7.You Imagine a Happier Life without Your Partner:
It’s ok to daydream here and there. Everyone has that celebrity bang list and that other list of people in their lives they’d bang. All of that is normal. If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, though, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.
Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone. Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success. Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be. If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?
#8.Small things bug you:
Small annoyances bug you out of all proportion. Like someone taking up too much space in the parking lot, someone taking the last coffee without brewing a new pot or someone talking too loudly in the next cubicle.
When you’re unhappy you have much thinner skin and a shorter fuse. It takes a lot less to annoy you.
#9.You Chase Past Feelings:
It’s ok to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path. You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark. When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.
#10. You’re suspicious of other people’s motives:
No matter what people do, your fist thought is “what are they up to?” Good or bad, big or small, all decisions and actions made by your co-workers and managers are seen in this light.
Studies show that we’re also more suspicious of others when we’re unhappy.
While no one is either happy or sad 100% of the time, there’s no denying that there are overall happy and unhappy people.